WE ARE NOT MERCENARIES

IF ALL YOU WANT IS AN UNETHICAL MERCENARY ATTORNEY TO WASTE YOUR MONEY AND THE COURT'S TIME FIGHTING OVER THINGS THAT YOU CANNOT WIN JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO FIGHT AND PAY THAT ATTORNEY, DO NOT COME TO ME OR MURPHY & DUNN.

I am sorry to vent, but I met this week with a potential client, FOR FREE, for an initial consultation that is usually 1/2 hour of free time and advice. I spent an hour with her listening and talking to her. She has a huge custody battle on her hands. She has a very difficult case because of the facts of her case. All she wanted to do was tell me how this new father should have no rights, was a terrible person, how the Judge was screwing her over, and basically play the "victim" card.

I told her the facts of life. She had a tough case on her hands. The Dad was going to have rights to the baby. She was not going to win everything just because she was the mother or just because she had a new baby. She did not want to listen to any of it.

She did not have a lot of money. I normally would have quoted her a high retainer, but despite the fact that she was unreasonable, I still wanted to help her out so I reduced my retainer. It is still not cheap, but it was a low amount for a custody case. She left and did not hire us.

This morning I woke up to a message from Facebook that she had left an extremely negative Facebook review of me and my firm, complaining that all we did was care about money, offered no advice, and did not listen to her. Unbelievable. I am sorry to vent, but it is totally crazy most days being a divorce and family law attorney. This type of stuff drives me crazy. We offer people real advice on the facts of life and the law as it applies to their case. Then, if they don't like what we are saying, all of a sudden, we are terrible people and terrible attorneys. No offense, but that is pure bull.

We are not terrible because we give real advice. In fact just the opposite. After 31 years and 8,000 cases, I have learned a few things. I am not going to go in to court and embarass myself or my client by making arguments that are not legally correct or making false allegations just to try and win a case for a client that wants to fight unnecessarily. My reputation and the reputation of my law firm are too important. In fact, I tell my younger attorneys that there are times you simply do not have the facts or the law on your side and it is perfectly proper to tell the Judge that. Sometimes you have to lose an issue in a case that you don't have the facts or law on your side to later win a bigger issue in the same case. The respect you earn from the Judges and fellow attorneys by being honest and not arguing over things that you cannot win is more important that arguing just to be arguing. Young attorneys need to learn that to be good at their craft. Clients need to learn that so they are not wasting their money.

Family law is too important to lie or cheat or tell your clients just what they want to hear for them to hire you. It is real life and important. Kids lives are at stake. Parents lives and livelihood is at stake. I believe that the two most streessful things anyone can go through is death and divorce. Thankfully I am not divorced, but obviously I have experienced death with the loss of our son, Nick. That has made me and my law firm better. We are more empathetic. We listen better. We are not robots. We actually care. And because we actually care, we are going to do our job right, even if it means telling a client or a potential client that they are wrong. That is being a good lawyer and that is what we are going to be.

I am sorry if you do not always agree with me or I do not always tell you what you want to hear. But you can be assured you will always hear the truth from the attorneys and paralegals at Murphy & Dunn, even if it is not what you want to hear. That is why we are the top divorce, custody and family law firm around. Even if some days you get mad at us, we are here for the right reasons.

Thus, if anyone wants a lawyer to tell them what they want to hear just because they are paying them, then do not hire us. We are not your firm. If you want the truth and someone to fight like hell for you, but do it based on the true facts and the proper law, then by all means give us a call.

G Edward Murphy