Divorce can spur bitter feelings between Illinois parents. Despite lingering anger, the reality is that many spouses have to maintain some sort of relationship after their divorce when joint custody is granted. By understanding that your children can benefit from having a relationship with both of their parents, divorced fathers can work with their spouse and children to build successful relationships post-divorce.

One Illinois man is finding a way to keep a healthy relationship with his two daughters after his 16 year marriage ended last year. He was been awarded joint custody of his daughters, who stay with him on weekends. In joint custody arrangements neither parent gets to spend all their time with the kids, so it is important to maintain communication as a much as possible. That way, the parent-child relationship remains strong even when children are not with one of their parents.

In joint custody agreements is that ex-spouses often maintain contact. Though divorced parents might have irreconcilable differences, it is important for ex-spouses to keep their interactions civil. According to one family law professional, being cruel to your ex "doesn't hurt anybody but your kids." Though it may be difficult to be cordial at all times, remember that you are maintaining contact with your spouse for your child's welfare.

Divorce is often toughest on children, so it is vital to make sure they feel loved by both of their parents whenever possible. Having supportive parents allows children to heal more quickly. Additionally, maintaining a cordial relationship with your ex-spouse shows your children that your former spouse is not a terrible person, which is important in joint custody arrangements.

The truth is that children are best served when they have a healthy, open relationship with both of their parents after a divorce. In fact, parents and children benefit from a solid relationship. Though mothers are often granted majority custody over fathers, a child's dad has an important part to play in their life as well. Knowing that, both parents should do their best to make sure their kids grow to be well-adjusted adults.

Source: Northwest Herald, "Divorced dads find success with post-marriage parenting," Chris Cashman, Feb. 12, 2012