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The basics of child custody in Illinois

As a parent, one of your top concerns during divorce proceedings is likely going to be child custody and visitation rights, or -- as they are typically referred to now in Illinois – parenting time. You're probably worried about losing time with your child and wondering how the process works. While every situation is different, some basics apply to most Illinois custody situations. Knowing the general guidelines ahead of time might help give you some peace of mind.

Determining child custody

Keeping the Non-Custodial Parent Involved is Important

Very few people enter into marriage assuming that they're going to get divorced on the other side. When it becomes clear that divorce is the healthiest option, people understandably often have mixed feelings about leaving their spouse. They may try to remember the happy times that they shared together. They may feel sad and depressed that their marriage fell apart. They could also feel angry and betrayed.

In the wake of a decision to divorce, some individuals may be tempted to shield their children from their former spouse. In cases of abuse or neglect, this may be a healthy instinct. But barring extreme circumstances, it is important to take steps to combat this urge because kids generally benefit from having both of their parents remain in their lives. While it may be challenging to co-parent alongside someone who has caused you pain, your children may need you to rise to the occasion for their benefit. Thankfully, experienced family law attorneys can help you to construct a parenting agreement that will serve your children's best interests and help to keep your needs met in your new co-parenting relationship. 

Six Ways to Combat Spousal Financial Abuse

Many people are aware of the horrors of physical abuse in families. But did you know that financial abuse can be just as devastating? Financial abuse takes place when one individual takes control over another's finances, assets, work, and education in a relationship.

It is one of the most powerful tactics an abuser can use over his or her victims to make them feel trapped, vulnerable, and hopeless. In Illinois, financial abuse is commonly afflicted on the elderly, but women in romantic relationships are also common targets.

Six Ways to Combat Financial Abuse

If you or someone you know is suffering from financial abuse and planning to divorce, these six strategies can help:

The Spy Who Divorced Me

Almost everyone is addicted to technology - cellphones, tablets and many other computer-based devices. However, the next time you communicate over an electronic medium, know that someone may be recording your statements.

Take steps for a smooth transition to a co-parenting role after divorce

When parents in Illinois are no longer able to work out their differences, sometimes the best option - for both the married couple and their children- is to file for divorce. In such situations, both parents will have to learn to adapt to a new role in their lives, that of a co-parent. While both spouses likely collaborated in raising their children previously, the structure of the arrangement will now change.

Illinois property division: Mortgage issues to watch for in Divorce

Deciding who keeps the marital home or whether to sell the home is a difficult decision. When there are school-aged children it may be hard to move them from the home in which they have grown up. A location near a school or in one of the best school districts may mean one parent wants to keep the home. 

Kids need access to both parents for their emotional well-being

One of the most heartbreaking challenges a parent will go through during a divorce is spending less time with his or her children. After a divorce, one parent may end up with the majority of parenting time, while the other could be relegated only to weekends or a few days out of the month. Traditionally, many people believe the mother ends up having the most time with the children, while the father is put on the back burner as the "other" parent - one who is no longer as involved in his kids' lives as he would like to be. 

When 'wallowing' during the divorce process is okay

When you were a child and you were struggling with negative emotions, your parents may have told you not to "wallow." And while it is generally good advice to avoid stewing in negative emotions for any length of time, there are situations where wallowing is warranted and can even be constructive.

For example, if you are currently navigating a divorce, some thoughtful wallowing may actually help you to process the negative emotions associated with your divorce in a healthy way. Pushing your negative emotions down may cause them to come out "sideways" at potentially hazardous times, such as during legal negotiations. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions privately and with your support system may ultimately help to move you forward.

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